by Jeanette Wages
“Dating is hard.”
How many times have you heard your friends say this?
How many times have you said it?
I’m sure I even said it a time or two when I jumped back into the dating scene this year after years out of the game.
I can see how people think it’s exhausting and no fun. The new name of the game is human window shopping (app dating) followed by an interview over drinks, because dinner would be too much of a commitment without knowing if someone checks all the boxes and wants to get married and have 2.5 kids, 2 dogs and a cat on the first meeting.
I think I just had a mini anxiety attack thinking about it. Where did I put my essential oils?
After jumping on and off apps every other week, I thought, “What am I doing to make this process not fun?” “What am I noticing others are doing on dates?” Oh, the things I noticed on dates… Half the time I realized I was either practicing my standup comedy routine to fill the awkward silence or I was spending my time coaching people on how not to make it weird. Apparently, I was accepting coaching payment in old fashioneds.
This couldn’t be the only way, right? You’re in luck that it is not!
Whether you decide the apps are the best for you — I get it, we are busy people — or you are hoping to bump into the love of your life in a bar or grocery store, your mindset going into the process is everything!
I meditated on dating, what I wanted from life, a partner… my-self, and personally decided I am much more comfortable with meeting people organically. Again, no judgment if swiping is your thing, it is the way of the modern world.
I also came to the realization that people are searching for help navigating the dating world. Now I can’t give you a guide to find your human, but I can help with the mindset issues holding you back from enjoying the journey and ultimately achieving your relationship goals.
This adventure has led me to some pretty exciting places in my own life and now I am working hard to share this with the world.
I am currently offering “Stop Bumbling Around” group sessions, heart-break and dating coaching sessions and am so excited to announce two new online and in person courses coming in the new year! One will be a 6-week course on healing after heartbreak, followed by an amazing empowerment course on the dating mindset.
Dating is fun! Don’t believe me? Check these courses out and let’s change your mindset!
